There are two weddings coming up that we were invited to. We have known both of the brides for a long time…in fact, they were both married when I met them. Thought Kim knew Tasha when she was married, but she just corrected me.
Marriage is difficult but rewarding. Knowing I get to come home to the same person everyday is very nice. It is a way to enjoy lots of life experiences with one person that you know will always be there.
It is also nice to know that I don’t have to deal with custody arrangements or pay alimony/child support. It is difficult for me to see a very good friend of mine here that has to deal with his ex-wife and the bullshit she puts him thru. Crazy son of a bitch is getting married again about a year after his divorce was finalized. His fiance is a great person and very friendly…thought the same about his ex. Good luck man!
Anyway, to Chris and Marcus…one piece of advice from someone that has been married for nearly 6 years…you ready?
1) She is almost always right. Just agree that you were wrong most of the time. Only push back when you are absolutely positive it can’t be reversed to be your fault.
2) When you are sure that there is no possible way it could be reversed to be your fault…agree that you were wrong. I guarantee that she can flip it somehow. You piss her off by fighting that she was wrong and then trying to turn the reversal around on her again…you are asking for trouble.
3) If she isn’t happy you don’t get to be happy. Ok, the way I normally say it is “If she ain’t happy, don’t nobody get to be happy” isn’t exactly true. She still wants her kids to be happy, but you aren’t one of her kids…are you.
Big deal right? Well, I flip Kim enough shit that I can throw things in subtle-like and get away with it. Like the fact that I haven’t got a new car since we’ve been married but she is on her 2nd new car in that time period. I said something the other day that really pushed the boundries of what I should be able to get away with.
I’ve been bitching over the summer about not having A/C and wanting to get a new car that had it. She would tell me we couldn’t afford it right now. So the other night I pushed to see what I could get away with. I told Kim that it was “mighty convienent that we could afford that new minivan she wanted, but we couldn’t when I wanted to get something new.” Well guess what…apparently I’ve rubbed off on her a bit. Without hesitation she replied, “Well, if you could have decided on what you wanted for longer than 2 weeks we might have gotten something new for you.” Damn. You learn well grasshopper.
To Kara and Marcus ~ Congrats and good luck. Wish we could attend the wedding, but we won’t be able to. Thank you for the invite and the gift will probably come to Portland with Kim in October.
To Tasha and Chris ~ Congrats and good luck. Look for the gift in October when Kim comes to Portland. Oh yeah, and you should look into a 15 passenger van with all those kids.
p.s. notice I put the brides’ names first…..they ALWAYS go first because, well, I like to walk and I’m not sure what kind of damage Kara and Tasha could inflict on my legs.
